Dating Is a Scam and Highly Ineffective

[TruthSeeker]

1. If dating is so effective for finding a partner, why are the divorce/failure rates so high?

If this was the optimal way to find someone, why are so many people unhappy or single? I bet that you know many, many people who have nothing to show for after years of dating.

I am one of those people. I have been on more dates than I care to remember. Every time I go to a date, there's a voice in my head saying: "Let's see what will fail this time."

You will probably say that this is the defeatist in me talking, but it's not quite true. It's the voice that forms in your head from the lack of success. It's the voice of experience.

Dating apps made dating even more shallow than it was before, and it was pretty shallow already. This decreased the effectiveness score even further.

Conclusion: If dating was a business idea, most people would have given up on it a long time ago as it's simply not profitable nor sustainable.

2. How many people do you have to meet before finding "the one"?

A million, it seems.

Dating gives an excuse to people to be shallow and wasteful.

Let's say that a woman goes on 100 dates in 1-2 years (not a hard task for a woman in this day and age) and still ends up "alone" (not a rarity in this day and age).

Do you want to tell me that 100% of those men were trash? This cannot be true even we wanted it to be true.

Of course, she will tell you that "all men are trash". But what she really means is that the prince she is looking for does not want her or does not exist. So, she keeps looking.

3. Most people in a stable relationship didn't date for long.

Dating is cancer. All those mind games for what? Really? For what?

Most people who are in a stable relationship were not dating robots. In fact, the kids of the elite don't date the same way the plebes do. That's because the architects know that dating, especially in it's current form, is a stupid strategy.

[Navigator]

When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural
But if you want this to happen you have to socialize with people - just find a group of people with similar interest and some activity that you like (fitness, music, dancing, reading...anything) and you will find someone sooner or later through meetings, house parties, birthdays etc

[Hans]

When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural

Same here. They sense your neediness a mile away ... and it drives them off.

[TruthSeeker]

When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural
But if you want this to happen you have to socialize with people - just find a group of people with similar interest and some activity that you like (fitness, music, dancing, reading...anything) and you will find someone sooner or later through meetings, house parties, birthdays etc

Apparently, this method does not work for everyone. If it did, the so-called dating market would be much smaller.

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When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural

Same here. They sense your neediness a mile away ... and it drives them off.

Neediness? 

The truth about neediness is painful, bro. It scares them because it would require commitment on their part. And they don't want that. They want only the benefits without the responsibilities.

Women today are conditioned to want a very specific type of male. This makes the rest of the males "needy" due to the scarcity effect.

If men had a healthy amount of options, we would not be needy.

[The Light Among Darkness]

When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural
But if you want this to happen you have to socialize with people - just find a group of people with similar interest and some activity that you like (fitness, music, dancing, reading...anything) and you will find someone sooner or later through meetings, house parties, birthdays etc

Apparently, this method does not work for everyone. If it did, the so-called dating market would be much smaller.

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When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural

Same here. They sense your neediness a mile away ... and it drives them off.

Neediness? 

The truth about neediness is painful, bro. It scares them because it would require commitment on their part. And they don't want that. They want only the benefits without the responsibilities.

Women today are conditioned to want a very specific type of male. This makes the rest of the males "needy" due to the scarcity effect.

If men had a healthy amount of options, we would not be needy.

It great that you share your experiences and save us time. It is true - relationship with the least dating were the "happiest" while the ones that dated for long time - are still dating with no results.

[Plato]

how do the elite date then ?

[joepeckflexforlife]

how do the elite date then  ?

Have you ever seen the Facebook profile of a child whose parents are rich and have given him a life of luxury, you take a look at his photos and look at him in the background you have a close-up of his cars or his house on the beach,do you think that those guys have some problem finding bitches or couple online?, quite the opposite, I can assure you that he has a row of sluts waiting for his message, he'll shoose the bitch in turn and a message will arrive to the lucky woman of that week, we know that no woman would refuse an appointment with someone like him, this happens with anyone who has money and status, it does not matter if he is extremely old or very ugly.

While the average guy is depressed because the girl from the service of MacDonald  has not responded to his messages, he has already downloaded tinder or any other app just to see that the hottest girls just ghost him

[khrazz]

When I always strived to have a girlfriend (dating, social network dating, nigthlife and similar) I have never had a girlfriend haha
All my girlfriends just happen and it was smooth and natural
But if you want this to happen you have to socialize with people - just find a group of people with similar interest and some activity that you like (fitness, music, dancing, reading...anything) and you will find someone sooner or later through meetings, house parties, birthdays etc

this ! You cant force yourself into a relationship. Finding people to hang around with, and have fun, is the most efficient way to meeting potential girlfriends. Ofc, you can also manipulate social media to increase your chances even further.


What i will add here , is to work on yourself. People love to be around with someone that makes them feel good and have fun. Throw away this mindset of "dating is a scam". I am not telling you that dating is awesome, cause its not for various reasons, but all i say is to get rid of the negative mindset. People can "sense" negative mindset for miles away, and besides that, you are also shortchanging yourself by being negative. Throw away this mindset, and try to have fun with people you like to hang around with.

[Hans]

The best way to get a girlfriend is to be upront about your intentions and see if she feels the same or is interested in at least pursuing something more.

That has never worked for me, probably due to the reasons TruthSeeker mentioned.

If there are no signs of interests from a girl I like, I just leave ... otherwise it's a disaster waiting to happen.

[Simple Simon]

"friendzone" is just a term women use to mean they don't find a man physically attractive.

Eg. As soon as i saw him, i put him in the friendzone.